Are you a victim?

I recently attended a meeting with several women and as they spoke I looked around the room and saw them in this way:

“She’s buried two children.”

“She’s survived cancer and lost her Dad in the last year.”

“She’s lost a sibling to suicide within months of losing her spouse.”

“She had to run away from domestic violence and restart her life with five children with practically nothing.”

I looked at these beautiful, strong women and saw what they had survived. What they had lived through. The times in their lives that they were victims.

But that’s not what I’m talking about when I ask if you are a victim.

We’ve all had traumas and tragedies in our lives. We’ve all had things we’ve had to overcome. Some way bigger than others but loss and change are simply a part of life.

What I’m talking about is how do you live your life now?

Do you look at life as something “that happens to you?” or as Derek Rydall says “life happens through you not to you”.

If you see life as happening through you, do you understand that your taking responsibility for everything in your life is what makes your life worth living.

When you live life “as a victim,” you generally complain, whine and blame. You find excuses. You procrastinate. You put things off. You eat a second cookie and wonder why you did it afterwards.

When you truly take responsibility for your life, you think and do things differently. Perfectly? Not hardly, but it does make a difference. When you take responsibility for your life, you no longer blame God, the Universe or Life for everything bad that happens in your life. You understand that “bad” things happen to everyone and that is just part of life so you learn how to cope and heal and move forward.

When you take responsibility for life, you learn ways to take care of yourself with love and respect that empower you so you can give from your heart. You do things on a regular basis that help you learn and grow. Things like Tapping. Meditation. Prayer. Yoga. Saying “I’m sorry” and moving on. Speaking up when you need to. Choosing foods that nourish your body and soul.

So if you choose to stop being a victim today, how would you live your life differently? Maybe start journaling on just that and see what you come up with.

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